Have you ever wondered what type of apology you need from someone in order to forgive them? That’s exactly what Hannah Witton discusses in her new video.
Hannah has uploaded the latest video in her #WhoAmI In Bed? series, a compilation of videos in which she completes different personality quizzes that discuss relationships, love and sex. In it, she undertakes the five apology languages quiz to find out what type of person she is when it comes to apologies.
Hannah begins the video by saying that she felt she was someone who needed to hear the words “I’m sorry” to be able to forgive someone. This is the first step, and for her to forgive someone who hurt her, they must understand why they are apologising. There needs to be an acknowledgement from the person that they know what they did was wrong.
Hannah says if she gets an empty apology without meaning, it almost hurts her more than it would have if they had just owned up to what they had done in the first place.
It is an interesting video that discusses the different types of attitudes and people there are when it comes to saying sorry. Everyone knows what it is like to be upset and to receive a sub-standard apology from someone who hurt them, and the subsequent frustration and upset that can happen because of this.
Hannah goes through the questions and finds out what sort of apology she needs to hear to be able to forgive somebody. Her apology language is “Accept Responsibility”, which is where it is difficult for someone to accept when they are wrong, but you need them to know they are wrong in order to forgive them. This is more or less what she thought what her language of apology would be before taking the quiz!
Hannah then completes the quiz a couple of more times, changing her answers, so she can discuss each type of apology language in-depth. The other four languages are:
- Request Forgiveness – Where someone must ask you to forgive them.
- Making Restitution – Where the person must restore or make up for what they have done, as simply asking for forgiveness is not enough.
- Expressing Regret – Where they must show that they are regretful and genuinely ashamed of what they have done, and zones in on the emotional hurt caused and having to apologise as a result.
- Genuine Repent – Where someone must change their actions, so the reason why they are saying sorry does not happen again.
Overall, it’s a very interesting video and we found ourselves learning a lot. If you’re like us, you probably didn’t realise there was more an one type of apology language, and now we’re eager to take the quiz and find our which category we fall under!